So today I was watching Rachel Ray and they had a segment Titled..My Wife Wont (fill in the blank). For this particular one the guys wife hates the outdoors and has refused to go camping (which the husband loves to do). He hasn't been camping in the six years that they have been married because she refuses to go. During the segment Colby (he cracks me up) took the wife on camping boot camp for princesses...okay so it was called something like that! During that time she had to sleep in a tent (although they hooked her up with a very nice one), learn how to get water from the river, make fire, and basically do everything that you have to do on a true camping trip....and she survived!! It was really cute because although she hated it she did it for her husband because it is something that he loves! And of course Rachel Ray hooked them up with an amazing glamor camping trip to go on!
So it got me thinking...what does the Hubs love to do that I refuse to partake in?? We are both really lucky in the way that we enjoy a lot of the same activities but I do realize that he is very good about doing all of the girly things that I like to do without complaining! In fact sometimes he suggests things to do that he knows I love to do just to make me happy and I just assume he likes them as well (i'm totally oblivious sometimes..i mean what guy really loves following you around carrying your shopping bags)!
Anyways, back to the question at hand...what activities do I deprive the Hubs of? The only thing that I could think of is skiing. The Hubs LOVES to ski and well I am always cold (and hate being cold) so the thought of being out in the snow doesn't really appeal to me! Because of my lack of willingness to go skiing, the Hubs hasn't been for about two years now (even though he bought new ski's last year)! I have told him numerous times that he can go with friends but it finally dawned on me that it is not only the skiing that is important to him but also being able to share his love of it with me! so i'm a little slow!! It is amazing how these little TV segments can really help us to realize areas in our own lives that we can work on...Sorry Hubs for being so oblivious!!! I am going to work on being more flexible in what I am willing to do (and yes i know it is easier to say it now when there really isn't any snow around)!
What about you? Are you good at doing the things your spouse/boyfriend/friends like to do? What areas can you work on?
Have a wonderful Monday :)
I don't cook...(maybe pasta, but seriously that is just boiling water) Big Man doesn't get any fancy schmancy meals at our house, but he does get cookies and cakes! :)
ReplyDeleteHmmm, great post! My Mr. enjoys video games but he knows I have no use for them. I hadn't seen him play them since we got married last July, until recently. Now that it's summer and he has off (he's a teacher/coach), he plays them after I go to sleep at night. Maybe I'll challenge him to a game one day soon :-)
ReplyDeleteYeah, I think my guy is a bit more outdoorsy than I am so I struggle to keep up with his athletic abilities, but all I can do about that is give it my best shot! Glad you watched the show and came to these conclusions! That makes you a very thoughtful wife. ;)
ReplyDeleteMy husband took me skiing once. I cried the whole way down the mountain. Ha ha :)
ReplyDeleteI love this post. It's funny how we can watch something and be totally inspired. I think we all have to learn to do things for other people (especially husbands and ppl we love) even if we don't like it. It's our way of showing we love and care about them! You're awesome!
ReplyDeleteHmmm, he likes scary movies, which I don't do. I've tried, but usually end up in tears, so he just goes with his friends. We're pretty ok with that arrangement. I'll have to ask if there's anything, I'm so curious now = )
ReplyDeleteGood job Ash. Go skiing in the Cali winter sunshine! I know you think that is impossible to not freeze, I used to feel the same way because everytime I went with Dad, it was cold, cold, cold. When he went without me, there was sunshine and some warmth. Well finally I got to experience the sunshine and really, it makes a difference. Now of course, it only happened once to me! Anyway, way to go to love the Hubs! I will remind you to go sking!
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Ugh I hate to say this, but video games. And I don't think I'm as good a wife as you. Because I just can't stomach the idea of playing with him. Poor guy.
ReplyDeleteStopping over from SITS! Good for you for trying something new for your hubs! What a funny episode of RR, too.
ReplyDeleteThis is a good post...Hmm, I have to think now, what won't I do for hubby?
ReplyDeleteI hate skiing too. My husband loves to snowboard and I think I would kill myself if I even attempted that. On our last skiing trip with friends, I took a lesson in the morning (hey, I tried) and spent the rest of the afternoon drinking in the lodge. It was much better than being cold outside! :)
ReplyDeleteHubby is an avid golfer and he wants me to try it. I think I might give in.
haha I've never skied, but husby plays football and I tried playing, but even when he's "not rough" he still somehow hurts me!! haha
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