One of the things that I first caught onto when I met my hubby was is ingrained ability to insert “yes sir” or “yes ma’am” when talking to any adult. You see, growing up in a military family I guess that is one of the requirements to surviving. Now, me on the other hand grew up in a family that called adults by their gasp first name and only allowed the phrase “yes sir/ma’am” come out of my mouth when held at gun point (not really but you get the point). My family was a very casual family and therefore was never trained in the sir’s or ma’am’s.
At first every time I heard the Hubs address people it caught me off guard, not because of the use of those polite words, but because of the fact that it simply rolled off his tongue without him even thinking about it! Then I met his family (now my family too) and I saw what a big part being polite and respectful was in their family which included using “sir” and ma’am when addressing an adult. I don’t mean to sound at all like my family was rude or impolite, we just weren’t as formal. Anyways, now being married into the military I see even more what a huge part these two titles play in this new life! I am embarrassed to admit that we have been married now 2 1/2 years and I am no closer to using those regal words than I was when I first met the hubs! It’s not that I am trying to be disrespectful or anything, I just think about it after the fact and then am like “shoot I should have said yes sir instead of yeah”!
Which brings me to the reason that I am writing this post…I need accountability people! Maybe by telling all you out there that I am committing to ingraining these words into my brain too will actually
force me at gun point make me do it! I am starting to see now that it is not only a way to respect to the person I am talking to but also to show respect to the hubs, since after all I am representing him in all that I do on base.
I also really want our kids to grow up with the same respectful manner that the hubs did and it will only confuse them if he is saying it and I am not (and just for the record we are not pregnant yet)! I really do feel that there are many different ways to raise your kids to be respectful (and a lot of it is guided by the type of lifestyle you family has), but for us I see this as a vital part of the Reno family that needs to not be overlooked!
Wish me luck folks, ask me how I’m doing, do anything you feel you need to in order to
nag make sure I am doing my part in this military family :) thanks ladies!!
What are some of the important things in your family?